I didn’t really know what to put as a flair for this but it’s basically a story. I’ve liked a K-pop group for some time now. Before I even knew who they were, I knew their songs and enjoyed them, and after some time, I really got to know that their music is very much my style. I was scared that my mom would hate me for liking a group, but I managed to get tickets to a concert and she said nothing about it. In fact, she actually seemed somewhat interested in who they were, so I would talk about them periodically. Somehow, this one time, when I just show her some funny video of one of them being scared by a bug, she just burst. She was yelling about how much she despises men like that who “scream like little girls” when they see something (and they really just slightly jumped and stepped back). She told that she was keeping quiet because she believed I was someone who sxualizes idols and only likes their looks, when I had never even remotely said something that goes along with her description of my behavior. In fact, I’m very much against the sxualization of idols because, in the root of it all, they’re artists, and artists should be praised for their works. She also said that if a grown man acts cute on stage that it’s all fake and that if they act like that, they are p*dos because they are “attracting little kids on purpose”… Yes, I’m a minor and, no, I’m not saying my exact age, but I’m not one of those little 10 y/o kids who like to revolve their lives around K-pop. I don’t know why, but this really changed my perspective on my mom. Like, a lot… I thought she would ignore at worst but I didn’t expect a full on meltdown over an idol being scared of a bug. I absolutely can’t agree with her hasty generalizations on idols considering the precautions that idols make to be sure that they act appropriately for the age of fans. I tried to explain that I like their music very much and have liked it before I knew their faces, but she calls them shallow excuses that I should never make for men. I really don’t know what I should do at this point. I’m kind of scared to share what I like to her now. I’m sorry about how long this is.. I’m also very sorry if this is against the rules. I just wanted to dump my thoughts into this to fully digest what just happened to me. Added mild censorship just in case. submitted by /u/SupermarketOk9689 [link] [comments]