Okay, clickbait, I know. But bear with me here. Also, throwaway account š tl;dr: need help with dealing with my partner and their parasocial attachment to Woozi (and Hoshi) in light of their upcoming enlistment āāāāāāāāāā My partner introduced me to Seventeen when we started dating. Iāve heard about them before, but I listen to a lot ot things and lowkey listen to kpop. Iām also an ELF and ARMY, but I havenāt done as much as compared to being a Carat ā weāve gone to a concert together, bought merch for ourselves and each other, watched GoSe, discussed music videos and performances in depth, shared memes, etc etc. I appreciate everyone ā my bias is Wonwoo and Dino is my bias wrecker, but they stan Woozi and Hoshi HAAAAAARD. They say theyāre not parasocial to the point of that they ship themselves to Woozi, and that seems to be true, but any news about HxW affects them so much to the point that some of our close friends ask me if Iām okay with it. For the record, I am notā¦which is why Iām posting here, if I was honest. My partnerās birthday was in February, and the video greetings for Carats in Weverse had Woozi and came out while we were on a date, but somehow they were happier and more excited for the greeting instead of being mentally present for the day I prepared for. Iāve never been their wallpaper, social media post, nothing, but their posts and wallpapers are very often Woozi/Howoo-related things. Even their best friend mentioned that I was very similar to Woozi (small but muscular fairy build, intelligent, nonchalant, authoritative, and usually refuses skinships unless itās with safe people) which Iāve actually also mentioned beforeā¦And they were like naaah. So their best friend and I looked at each other in a sort of āfam u blind or smth?ā š Itās been so bad for a while now that while I appreciate Hoshiās passion for movement and choreography, and Wooziās music production skills and vocal range, they both annoy me. Hoshi in a āwhy do you have too much energy, you are too much for meā way, Woozi in a āwhy canāt I be more like you and maybe my partner will be proud enough that sheāll also flex meā way. I donāt think they realize that itās making me feel that I have to measure up to this talented, attractive, gifted guy to feel like I am worth their attention. Like I have to be as skilled as a kpop idol for people to know that she actually has a partner. I think one of the worst days was today, when I was bracing myself for potentially life-changing medical news in the worst way. Thankfully things turned out much, much better than everyone expected, and no one saw that coming. But for the rest of the day, thereās just posts about HxW enlisting soon and she seems really sad about that, but only the bare minimum about comforting and reassuring me even in private (because honestly, the relief really hasnāt sank in yet and Iāve shared that with them). I understand that a lot of these are my insecurities coming out, but Iāve told this to them and they basically just interpret it as āSeventeen/Woozi/HxW makes me happy, and when you say that, it feels like Iām not allowed to enjoy them to make me happyā, when my point is āI also enjoy them, but if you can post about HxW often, then maybe you can post about having a partner sometimes as well?ā So eventually we just drop the conversation because weāre both frustrated. š But anyway, if your partnerās ult biases were enlisting soon, how can I best comfort my partner? I know of an HxW fan event in a few hours so I was thinking of dropping by soon to get her fan merch, maybe a Ppyopuli plush which she mentioned would be nice, or perhaps other ideas? Because I know that while I currently I do not have the psychological and emotional bandwidth to deal with their parasocial relationship/s, I also know that any news related to HxWās enlistment makes them very sad and seemingly depressed. I already had to deal with them being extra sad when she missed the HxW fancons as we currently cannot afford to fly overseas to attend, this despite everything else in their life going okay. So I was hoping to find a way to comfort them while respecting my boundaries at the same time ā if thatās even possible. submitted by /u/nurung-uji [link] [comments]
I hate Woozi (and HxW by extension) | CW: parasocial relationships, relationship issues
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