hey guys, I’m not trying to say all girl group kpop stans are mean, trust me there are some sweet people I have met, however I do have to acknowledge my experience with the bad. one of my friends, the one who got me into kpop and bts, doesn’t stan boy groups anymore or bts, which whatever, doesn’t effect me. however we always talk about our interests together other than kpop (we’ve been friends for over a decade) So she talks about her interests 90% of the time and that 10% when I do she always says something about it and then quickly changes the subject OR leaves me on seen and talks about something else. I talk to her sometimes about stray kids which is my ult group and she said “I don’t know i could never stan another boy group again.” It hurts my feelings something’s because she’ll talk about her favorite girl groups (Misamo, Twice, Newjeans, and Mamamoo) all the time and I never say anything back handed or shady, I’m always engaging and relate. Plus I normally like the same girl groups she does. This isn’t that mean but she knows I never have anyone to talk to about my fave group so it just hurts sometimes. She’s also just kinda ruined bts for me by always making fun of namjoon while same time glazing yoongi. Another instance was a kpop girl group discord server. It was mainly an IVE/TWICE server but I joined and entered the voice chat because I just wanted friends. I said hello, and turned my camera on like everyone else. The girls in that chat immediately started making fun of me and my looks, mocking what I said, laughing whenever I said something, or just going “WHAT???” loudly whenever I tried speaking up. They also would play voice effects in the calls (it’s basically a soundboard) and I played mine too just to try to be friends, and they yelled “SHUT UP” and kicked me from the call. They kept kicking me out and I said “why are you being so mean” and one of the girls just laughed loudly and kicked me again. At this point I got angry and went to the general chat and said “okay fuck this stupid ass server then.” Which granted I shouldn’t have said but they were BULLYING ME????? they immediately banned me. One of the girls from the calls private dmed me and she said n word, hard r and all, before blocking me. Now I don’t know if she was African American or not but, regardless I cried my eyes out because I was just trying to find friends. I’ve also had numerous negative encounters in kpop servers, twitter, reddit, and instagram. Don’t even get me started on TikTok. Another time, I forget where, I was told I wasn’t pretty enough to do wonyoungism too and I was like “oh okay.” which yall promote literal eating disorders…but aight. I don’t think it’s all girl group stans, trust me, I’ve found really good people with IVE, illit, and newjeans. However, a majority that I’ve met are literal bullies and so mean. I just had to ask if this was anybody else’s experience with girl group stans. let me know if you relate at all. submitted by /u/Comfortable_Job_6831 [link] [comments]