Can someone please explain to me why it’s suddenly normal, especially on X, to refer to male idols using terms like “lesbian,” “babygirl,”, "my girlfriend", “mother” etc.? People usually respond with, “It’s just a Gen Z thing,” but that doesn’t make it okay to me. I believe it happens in many other fandoms but I'll use Stray Kids as an example (And please believe me I don't think the whole fandom is like that!) If this behavior were directed toward Felix — who’s openly expressed appreciation for his androgynous side (which I fully support, by the way) — maybe it would at least make more sense. Instead, people are going after Changbin and Bang Chan, and it’s getting weird. I constantly see comments about their "breasts", “boobs” and how they “need a bra,” followed by people calling them “my babygirl.” Am I really the only one who finds that incredibly uncomfortable? If these are jokes how is that funny? Take someone like Changbin — he’s a great example of anti toxic masculinity. He’s never been ashamed of liking things like the color pink or doing gg choreos, he clearly loves and respect women in a healthy way. So why can’t people just let him be a man who enjoys so-called “girly” things without labeling him as a woman? Being a woman isn’t bad, obviously, but Changbin is a 26-year-old man who’s never said otherwise. When I try to explain my perspective in the comments, I get called a transphobe, misogynist, or told I hate women. But these idols aren’t trans, and they’re not women — so why are we calling them that? And when I say I don’t like seeing people call them “lesbians,” somehow that makes me homophobic? As someone in the LGBTQ+ community myself, that logic just doesn’t hold up. I’m an empath. I imagine what it must feel like to go on X and see thousands of people zooming in on your body, calling you a different gender, and making weird jokes about it. It honestly makes me nauseous. I’ve tried to avoid these kinds of people, but it’s impossible now. And if idols want to stay connected to fans, they can’t avoid it either — they’re being forced to read this stuff. I'm open for discussion, maybe you will be able to change my mind or at least make me less emotional about it. Also does it happen in your fandom too? Thanks for reading! submitted by /u/egggrandpa [link] [comments]
