So recently, I’ve been getting videos in my algorithm showcasing fan to idol interactions in my feed with CORTIS at a sign event. What really concerns me is the fans’ ignorance to their boundaries as fans. Like, they’re overstepping the boundary, and I’ve particularly seen Seonghyeon and Keonho implicitly uncomfortable. (e.g. seonghyeon: https://youtu.be/N1oXO9zB3N0?si=Q030vxSW2UbF_3Kl, keonho: https://youtube.com/shorts/6e01zoCAcIc?si=05UWYbZCZmbYIzBc) Maybe it’s just me, but I feel extremely uncomfortable for them and it seems to me they feel that way too 😭😭 They typically ask questions regarding their preferences in girls, or request actions that would make the fan, typically a girl, feel like they’re y/n and that they’re the male lead courting her or some shi and making her flustered. What’s so funny about this is that it’s a one-sided interaction on the fan’s part because you can see how desperate they are to get an exclusive interaction from a good-looking guy that would otherwise not happen irl 💀 So essentially, they kind of view CORTIS mainly as a subject of their delusions in a way, and they’re seizing the opportunity of meeting them at a fan sign to practicing their delusions. You can have your fantasy and delusions of having a y/n moment with them, but at the end of the day, you’re a fan, and they’re an idol. There’s a limit to what you can express in person and vice versa. Unless it is reciprocal and mutually consented and well within the boundary of a fan to idol relationship, I don’t see a problem. Also they are minors, so shouldn’t it be common sense that there is a tighter boundary? I can see that they’re taking advantage of the fact that they’re inexperienced rookie minors just starting out in the entertainment industry of kpop. The purpose of fansigns is to deepen the relationship between the fans and idols to develop a loyal fanbase, but they’re putting them in a tight spot where they’re obliged to fulfil requests and questions regardless of their consent. The fans don’t even ask if it’s appropriate of them to ask or request certain things. Talk about baseless entitlement. I know there are expectations for idols to speak and act according to the fans wishes because a fan to idol relationship is reciprocal, but it’s gone to a point where their wishes are out of bounds and the idol themselves feel violated, and forced to limit their say in the interactions because of expectations from people who pay their rent that are warranted, but are afraid to challenge unwarranted wishes due to this. Nonetheless, they are not obliged to fulfil whatever role they play in your dreamland irl, nor are you entitled to them. Just treat them as you would any other individual normally because they are. I know they’re good looking individuals and that they are rare to see, but to blatantly dismiss their normality is alienating, and it’s just very unattractive to treat them that way. It’s like you have no respect for them as individuals because you view them as objects to practice your delusions about love. It’s okay to admire their facial aesthetics, the problem is objectifying them because of it; whether implicit or explicit. submitted by /u/meowtchatea [link] [comments]
